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Is sexting considered cheating? Yay or nay….

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I was talking to a friend who was recently cheated on.  Again.

He had begged and pleaded for her to take him back. Apologized. Sent flowers.  Talked to her friends.  Acknowledged that he had demons and issues and promised he would work on them.

She swallowed her pride.  Put her ego aside.  Recognized that everyone makes mistakes herself included and decided to make it work.  She recognized that to make it work she would have to work at rebuilding the trust again. No snooping.  No throwing the indiscretion in his face, every time she felt insecure.

They began to rebuild the relationship.  And everything was great.  Of course, this was all happening during the holidays – which is after all the most wonderful time of the year.  LOL. Things were going great and they were finally talking about taking the relationship to the next level – living together.

And then one day, she caught him again.  This time it was sexting.  Yes. She snooped.  Considering the extent and drama around the first infidelity, she did pretty good snooping just twice.  Anyway, he says it was only sexting.  He hadn’t seen her or hooked up with her.  He was just talking “shit?”  What?  Huh?

But I mean isn’t sexting the same as cheating.  I mean please enlighten me.  And did he not have sex with her because he got caught?  What was the purpose for the sexting? What is the end goal? Isn’t it to get hot and heavy and then have sex?

Let’s talk about sexting.

Sexting defined is to send (someone) sexually explicit photographs or messages via mobile phone. (“older teens are more likely to engage in sexting than their younger counterparts”)

Read that again, “older teens?”  not grown adults apparently.  Hmmm.

“Sexting is actually most likely to occur within a committed relationship.”

“Now that Melissa had evidence, her husband immediately changed his tune: I don’t know why I do these things. I love you. He didn’t think he’d done anything wrong, because he’d had no physical contact with the other woman. But for Melissa, it didn’t matter whether he’d actually followed through with his graphic messages. He’d still lost her trust. She decided to file for divorce, a process she’s still going through today. Melissa said the text messages were what drove her to dissolve the marriage.”

https://.huffpost.com/entry/sexting-cheating_n_6185288

“Sexting becomes adultery when one person in the relationship does it without consent from a partner and without concern for how he or she will feel about it. Concealing a relationship outside of the primary one means that lying and hiding are involved, and at the moment, there is very little, if any, regard for how the other person will feel about that outside relationship. The lying and secrecy associated online affairs will destroy a couple’s trust and commitment. Trust is sacred in any relationship, and once that trust is broken, it is hard to repair.”

http://netaddiction.com/is-cybersex-cheating/

Why do people sext? Well the internet listed many reasons.  This guy told his girl that whenever she left him alone he felt lonely—- um ok. Most people feel lonely and they read a book, watch tv, go out and meet friends.  Nope.  Not this guy.  He sexts or cheats.  SMDH!!!

People sex out of boredom, loneliness, curiosity, the excitement of doing it and not getting caught, or even possibly getting caught and the drama that comes with that.  A need to feel desired and wanted.  And sometimes plain ‘ole “sin vergüenzeria” that’s Spanish basically for no shame in his/her game.  Just don’t give a fuck!

And this is all well and good if both parties are aware of it, but when it involves lying, it takes on a whole other meaning – cheating.  And of course it means different things to the parties involved.  For the person that catches it, it is hurtful.  For the person doing it it might mean nothing at all.  Like this guy.  “I was just talking BS”.  “I was bored”.  “It doesn’t mean anything”.

He says he wasn’t cheating, but I get to differ. Especially coming on the heels of the first incident.

So is sexting cheating?  I say yes.  You all can chime in. l say anything that is done without your partner’s consent or something you would not be okay with having your partner do- whether it’s just words or illicit pictures is cheating.

If you have to hide it, it’s cheating.  If you have to go out of your way to put your phone on airplane mode, delete messages, give fake names to contacts, it’s cheating.  Anythingsexting  that you would not be okay with your partner doing is cheating. Because if a sexter was okay with their partner sexting then that’s a conversation that needs to be had and understood.

Listen everyone gets bored. Everyone gets lonely at times.  Everyone loves the excitement of a new relationship.  People love the thrill of sneaking around and or even getting caught.  Some people LOVE THE THRILL!!!

But the question is at what expense?  Is it even worth it?  Is it worth the pain that is caused.  The extended relationships that are broken.  Having people take sides.

And if you’re looking to fill some hole in the relationship then maybe they are not the one.

Or how about this why don’t you sext with your partner?  Build excitement.  Keep things spicy and avoid all the fall out of a relationship ending. Over something so fucking stupid.

I don’t know, I’m just saying that before you hit send ask yourself is it worth it?

And to my friend I said if he’s dumbass enough to get caught again, do you really want him?

Thanks for stopping by loves.  Don’t forget to like, comment, follow and share!  Tell me your thoughts?

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LolaUncorked♥

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A little nip here…a little tuck there…some things I learned after my surgery abroad…

Hi my Loves!

I hope that January wrapped up nicely for you all!   Even though it did feel like the longest January ever.

I’ve been wanting to talk a little nip/tuck for some time and finally decided to sit and share my story.

Five years ago I had a terrible break up.  I got dumped.   Like seriously, me?!? LOL! Just kidding.  Even though it was an unhealthy relationship and I knew everything that was wrong with it, I was distraught when it ended and even more distraught when I found out she was younger, not cuter, just younger and fit.  SOOOO, as we do, many women, we start comparing and thinking about all the things we could have done or been to keep the man.

So I decided to get a little nip/tuck.  My implants were over 15 years old and needed be replaced/lifted and figured there was no time like that time to get it done.

After some research, I chose Dr. Carlos Jimenez in DR, mostly because he is a close family friend of my sister in law, he served as a doctor for the U.S. military, and he did NOT have a huge presence, or any presence on IG unlike many that are found on social media.

After having a phone conversation, I sent him photos of myself and while consulting with Dr. Jimenez via Whatsapp, I also decided to have a little back fat removed and a little liposuction in my abdomen. See photos.

Dr. Jimenez suggested a tummy tuck, but #1 I didn’t think I needed it (exercise would have worked), #2 I didn’t want that huge scar and #3 I didn’t want to be away from home longer than I needed to be.  I get very antsy and anxious when I am away from my kids for too long (even though they are grown asses!) LOL!!!

My friends suggested I make my ass bigger by adding some of the fat I removed from my back and waist to my butt, but honestly I just kept thinking that’s like adding future cellulite to work off!! LOL!!! In the end I didn’t need to because once he removed the back fat, I looked like I had snatched my waist making my butt look rounder and perkier!  Winning!

As with any surgery, whether here or abroad, we should always be informed and do our research.  Talk to other people who have had the same procedure.  Consult with several if not many doctors.  Don’t be fooled by what you see on social media.  I know a few people who went to some really popular surgeons, paid exorbitant prices only to end up really disappointed with the results.

Anyway I wanted to write this blog to talk about my experience, things I regret, information I gained after the fact that would have supported my healing and just some tips and suggestions for those of you considering any type of plastic surgery.

Now you guys know I love disclaimers so here goes:

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional (clearly) and everything included in this post is based on my own personal experience.  Everyone is going to have a different experience, but hopefully you may pick up a tip or two that can support you on your plastic surgery journey.

In preparation for surgery, some of the work included getting a physical and some bloodwork here, no drinking and no smoking for a month prior.  I started gym a few times a week and also tried to do some clean eating.

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Before my surgery.  Notice the boob on the right?  That implant had deflated and was halfway under my armpit. I also always thought my hip “balls” were too large for my body, so Dr. Jimenez sucked a little fat out of there to make it more proportionate.

I arrived on a Wednesday and met Dr. Jimenez on Thursday.  He conducted more blood work and early Friday I was given the go ahead.  At the clinic, Dr. Jimenez took his little black marker out.  He again suggested the tummy tuck, I opted against it ( something I later regret, keep reading).  We also decided to take out a little fat from the outside and inside of my thighs (which I love!!!)

I was prepped for surgery and taken in.  I just want to say that Dr. Jimenez and his staff were so lovely and caring. And man can we just talk about anesthesia??? O M G!  I love that shit. LOL.

Anyway, after the surgery, I was nicely bound in a post operative compression garment and/or “faja” and released from the clinic the next day to a recovery house.

This “faja” was really difficult to get on because I was so swollen and it was XS.  It took two nurses and a wonderful girl who I became friends with (who was accompanying her friend for surgery) to get me into this chamber of torture.  Terrible and painful.  It did make me feel secure, like it was holding everything in place.  However, my first night in the recovery house my legs swelled from mid-thigh down.  A LOT!! I was really concerned and reached out to the doctor.  He made me go back the next day and gave me one a size bigger. 

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Chamber of Torture. It took three people to get me into this thing before leaving the clinic. Ouch!

In the recovery house, they took wonderful care of me cooking healthy meals, making natural juices (diuretics), and helping me in and out of bed. I stayed at the recovery house for a few days then went to stay with family.

Once there I immediately started my lymphatic massages.  Can we talk about these massages?  OMG!  Hurt like hell.  I definitely have a high tolerance for pain.  The strangest thing about the massages, though, is that even though they hurt like HELL, there is almost a relief in the pain. If that makes sense.  My masseuse was also amazing.  She came to me everyday for the next 8 days.  Soon it was time to fly home.

Dr. Jimenez wanted me to stay three weeks.  I stayed for two.  Definitely not enough.  The air pressure on the airplane made me retain so much liquid.  I had compression socks on and walked up and down aircraft several times but still.  By the time I landed I looked like I had gained 20 lbs.  Wish I had a picture.

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Before coming home. Nice and flat, waist snatched. 

The day after I got home, I noticed that I had a pocket of liquid in my lower abdomen. Like you could actually see the liquid moving around in the lower part of my abdomen.  Definitely, did not have this in DR and I believe it was as a result of two things –  the extra skin I did not remove via a tummy tuck and the fluid build up from flight home.  These pockets are sometimes called “seroma”.  Follow this link for some basic information on seromas.

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It took me a while to figure out how to edit these photos. LOL!

https://drmosser.com/prevent-seroma-formation-plastic-surgery/  

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Pocket of fluid

I didn’t stress it too much and immediately started my lymphatic massages and had my best friend who is a nurse drain the fluid with a syringe daily.   I did two more sessions of ten massages at different spas. But I ended up developing fibrosis after liposuction. Here’s another link to some information.

https://ariamedtour.com/blogs/lumps-after-liposuction/

I tried waist trainers, exercises and creams to make the skin on my stomach look and feel less lumpy.  I rarely wear a bikinis anymore because I am self conscious about it.  The skin feels tight. 

Disclaimer: I do not blame Dr. Jimenez for the results of my stomach lipo.    I blame it on lack of information on my part.   My back,  thighs, and waist look amazing.  I will definitely go back to correct hopefully.  I should have gone with the tummy tuck.  But we live and learn for sure.

Now let’s talk about my boobies!!!  THEY are A-mazing!!!  He outdid himself.  Scarring is minimal.  Great lift and cleavage.

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Look at these babies!

In wrapping up  this post here are some tips (that might work for you or not):

  1. DO YOUR RESEARCH please.  Ask tons of questions. Not only about the doctor and/or country, but also about your skin and how you heal.  I come from bad skin LOL dry, little elasticity, older, so this also may have had something to do with my healing process.
  2. When you initially have surgery I suggest a “faja” that fits comfortably until your skin and tissues start healing.  My thought for this is that I was squeezed into this XS faja with all this raw healing tissue inside and my body started to take on the creases from wearing it so tight.  I developed a seroma and fibrosis after my surgery.
  3. I believe you can drink too many fluids.  I know it’s recommended but I definitely feel I drank too many liquids hence I started retaining liquid.

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    This is the amount being drained in the first few days home.
  4. You should not be getting laser infrared treatments initially.  Why? Your skin tissue is raw and basically the laser cooks those tissues under there.  Results? Hardening, lumpiness.  I should have stuck to the lymphatic massages until everything was smoothed out.  (This came from a surgeon I visited for a post up consult here.) And please share your thoughts about this.  I’ve tried several treatments for the fibrosis to no avail.  Insert sad face here.
  5. If you’re having surgery abroad especially liposuction, plan to stay minimum 3 weeks.
  6. If you’re not happy with your results contact your doctor as soon as possible.  This is easier if you have your surgery here,  but nonetheless I feel that maybe had I contacted Dr. Jimenez sooner perhaps I could have gotten it corrected.  Wah! Wah!

Okay I am done.  Like I said before everyone’s experience is different and you may completely disagree with what’s in this blog, BUT this was my experience.  And even though I am not 100% happy with results my only regret was not having a full on tummy tuck, but again I didn’t want to stay longer.  AND I kind of like my belly button! LOL!

Thanks for stopping by! Don’t forget to like, comment, follow and share!

Here are a few more pics!

LolaUncorked♥

 

 

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How to get started….tackling the new year…

Hi Loves!

Can you believe that January is almost over?  Sheesh! Where does the time go? Anyway, just wanted to check in and see how the new year is treating you all so far.  How are those intentions, or resolutions going? Did you get started? If not, what’s holding you back?

This is the first year that I finally feel like I am being a little more reasonable about the things I want to accomplish. newyear

Typically, and you guys know how it goes;  we want to do it ALL in the new year.  Get up early, go to gym every day, read, meditate, meal prep,  declutter, stay organized,  etc, etc, etc.  And of course by week 2 it’s down the drain, because quite frankly it is overwhelming. And way too much to tackle all at once.

I mean thinking on previous years and thinking of how quickly I gave up, it’s no wonder.   There aren’t even enough hours in the day to do it all.

As I mentioned in a previous post, I decided to set daily intentions (rather than make intentionsresolutions) and take small bites in order to accomplish what I would like in this new year. I’ve also made it a point to be kinder to myself when I don’t come through on those intentions.  Sometimes, actually, most times we are too hard on ourselves.

Like think about it, if a friend came to you bummed out because after dieting for a few weeks they haven’t lost any weight or they went out and stuffed their faces with the best pasta ever!  You don’t turn around and say,

“OMG! You’re such a fat-ass!  You’re never going to lose weight eating like that!”

(At least, I hope you don’t say that!! LOL). Chances are you may say something like,

“Listen it’s ok.  Just start right back up again.” or “You deserved that meal, you’ve been great so far!”

Right?!?  So why can’t we do the same for ourselves?  Kind self-talk and forgiveness go such a long way.

So I wanted to share some tips that are helping me tackle those bigger goals for this new year without feeling defeated.

  1. Organization – I need structure and visuals to help me so the first thing I did was purchase a really cool dry erase wall calendar (from Burlington Coat Factory for a mere $14.99).  It sits on the first wall that I see on the way to the bathroom in the morning.  I also added a small dry erase board next to it.  The calendar is a snapshot of my month.  I write everything there, when I go to gym, work schedule, appointments, birthdays.
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    Got this bad boy at Burlington Coat Factory

    On the dry erase board, I write three things I am grateful for each day and a daily mantra or intention.  I get to see those several times as I walk back and forth and get ready in the morning.  I also picked up a cute planner by Create & Cultivate (from Target) in which I can jot down my To Dos List, my mantra (again), see my month and week at a glance, create vision boards, etc.  I found that I had too many tools and wasn’t using any of them.  For some people technology works best so they use their phones, I need pencil and paper.

  2. In the self care department its as simple as applying a facial mask a week and sitting in silence while I wait rather than trying to clean the kitchen or bathroom.  I mean the cleaning defeats the self care, right?  So pick up some facial mask sheets (so easy) and set a day of the week for when you’re going to do it (on your wall calendar or in agenda).  Self care also includes going for a mani and/or pedi, taking a nap once a week, going to therapy.  Pick one and and stick to it!
  3. For my fitness goals I am committing to doing something physical for at least 30 minutes a day to begin.   That could be the gym, yoga, or some sort of a fitness challenge (there are tons on Pinterest that can be printed and posted where you will see first thing in the morning.)
  4. Finally, I chose one HUGE goal for myself in 2020-2021.  I want to get my yoga  certification.  I’ve been toying with yoga for a while now and I would love to teach it.  The challenge is that the yoga certification program here in the US is long and requires a huge time commitment.  Because I know myself and how easily livingyouryogadistracted I am my plan is to go complete the certification abroad somewhere.  Some of the programs I am looking at are in Tulum, Costa Rica and Bali.  The program itself is less expensive than here, but I do have to incur the cost of housing while there, but for as little as two weeks!  Winning.  In preparation for that I have committed to starting with minimum of two classes a week and and reading a related book a month (currently reading Living Your Yoga by Judith Hanson Lasater) .  Definitely manageable, more than trying to get to hot yoga 5 – 6 times week, like I’ve tried in the past.
  5. Most importantly, you can have a huge vision for 2020, just tackle it one week at a time.

And that’s it for now.  It’s what I feel is manageable for ME.  It could be that you may be able to take on more or less at the beginning of the year. And that’s fine.  For me, I rather start small and build up as the year progresses and as my level of commitment increases.  Rather than start big and then drop everything because I just can’t keep up.

And well, when I stumble and fall, I dust myself off and start anew, because in the end 25-never-give-up-quotes1it’s not quantity that counts it’s actually quality.  So if I can do a 30 minute yoga session at home, in which I am totally present, instead of a 90 minute hot yoga session in a studio that is so hot I can’t think of anything but it being over, then the 30 minute it is.

Well, my loves I hope this helps and I hope as we wrap up January, you continue to stay strong, adjust and readjust if needed and keep getting back up on that wagon!

Thanks for stopping by!  Remember to like, comment (my fave), and share!!!

LolaUncorked♥

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Living intentionally in this new year, new decade…

Hey Loves!  Happy New Year! Happy New Decade!!!  I have to tell you that I am glad the holidays are over!  ABSOLUTELY exhausted.  Don’t get me wrong, I had a great time off.  Spent with family and friends.  Ate too much! Drank too much! Slept not enough. LOL. But blessed to have the time to share with my loved ones.

Now that I slowed down a bit, I wanted to come on here and address the “new year, new me” syndrome. Because that’s all we are going to see on social media until about mid February when everyone falls off the wagon.

But seriously what exactly is wrong with the “old” you.  I mean are you that bad?!?! Are WE that bad? And what compels us to make all these ridiculous resolutions in the new year. Resolutions that aren’t going to stick because they are just unrealistic and overwhelming.

I didn’t make resolutions this year, because I really want to think intentionally about what I’d like to accomplish.  I am pondering some bigger picture sort of stuff.  Not the usual lose 10 pounds, workout everyday twice a day, give up liquor, sugar AND carbs kind of resolutions, journal and meditate every day, get up at 5! I mean I am exhausted just thinking about it.

They are just silly and resolutions like those set us up for IMMEDIATE failure.  And so I’ve been taking my time to really think about attainable goals or intentions (as I like to  call them) that have meaning and that will have a positive impact on the three areas of my life : health, spirituality and finances!  Not because there is anything wrong with the old me but because there is always room for improvement, right?

I’ve also been thinking about the reasons why we fail at goals and why intentions are more impactful and the ways  we can stay committed, maintain and sustain our work.

I found this explanation of the difference between goals and intentions:

Goals are focused on the future. Intentions are in the present moment. Goals are a destination or specific achievement. Intentions are lived each day, independent of achieving the goal or destination. Author Unknown /Google

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Isn’t that great!?!  This is why so many of us give up on long term goals.  The minute we fail at it or fall off the wagon, we give up completely.  For example, if my goal is to lose 10 pounds by going to gym and eating healthy, the minute I miss a day or two at gym for whatever reason, what happens?  Ya’ll know.   We use it to beat ourselves up and come up with a bunch of excuses as to the point?  We give up.  I know I do.  Then I may tell myself forget the healthy eating because what’s the point I am not working out. And just like that goals go “poof”!!!

Intentions are different.  Intentions or living intentionally focuses our vision and our thoughts towards an action.  When we set intentions the self talk is different.  The self talk could sound more like:  powerofintention

“Today I intend to do one thing towards being healthy – take a walk at lunchtime. (For example).  If for some reason I miss my walk at lunch time, I could say to myself, “Ok I missed lunch but today when I go the supermarket, I intend to park as far away as possible from entrance.”

Or here is another one: “Today I intend to smile at everyone I meet.” It could be that as I walk into the building, the guy who cut me has left a scowl on my face and I barely say good morning.  Then someone will smile at me, I smile back and remember my intention.  I still have bunch of people I can smile at, maybe someone who really needed it that day.  It doesn’t feel as “ugh” as failing at my goal and completely giving up.  Tomorrow I can wake and set intentions all over again.

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The more you do something, the more innate it becomes therefore becoming a habit. The more intentions you meet or fulfill the more thought you put into reflecting what it is you want to see flourish within you that is going to get you a step closer to your overall goal. We know it takes 21-28 days to create habits. And intentions can change and still guide you to where you want to go.

So with all that in mind I am reflecting on this past year and of where I’d like to see myself grow in this new year and then setting daily intentions to create those life long habits that will hep me reach those goals.

Here are some quick ways to get those intentions into your day:

  1. I keep a dry erase board next to my calendar that I see each morning on the way to bathroom.  I jot down three quick intentions for my morning. Smile at everyone I meet, give a compliment.  Drink two bottled waters before I leave home.
  2. At work I jot down some intentions on post its (am and pm).
  3. I also use my desk calendar to jot intentions.
  4. As I drive home I think of some intentions for my evening (share a meal with my daughter, work out for 30 minutes (wherever that my be), meditate before bed.

As you kick off this new year and new decade, sit in silence and really think about how you want to grow yourself. Always remembering that there is nothing wrong or broken with the “old” you but that there is always room for better.

I really wish you all a healthy, abundant and intentional new year!

Happy New Year!

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LolaUncorked♥

 

 

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A call to action…

Hi My Loves∼

I hope you guys are all caught up on my blog posts! Today I am here because in light of the recent shooting in Jersey City I am compelled to put this call to action out there.

As many of you have heard or read, the shooting occurred within feet of a school.  I read somewhere that all the schools in Jersey City were placed on lockdown.  I don’t know if that’s true but it got me to thinking.

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I work in education for a non-profit that will remain nameless.  But I do work in a public school in an urban area.  I work in the oldest building in the district (approx. 108 years old).  It is shaped like one huge rectangle with an addition in back that makes it look like a T if you are looking down. With that said the building has various points of entry/exit.  One door in particular is propped open with a rock in the morning because it connects to parking lot in back hence staff does not have to walk all the way around to front to enter.

There are over 30 classrooms, offices and spaces and of those many do NOT have keys to their door. I don’t know the numbers.

Why am I sharing this? Well the other day I was in a classroom during a lockdown drill.  When security did their rounds our door was unlocked.  He told us we needed to lock door and that’s when I learned the teacher didn’t have a key.  After speaking with the teacher I learned many teachers do not have keys to their rooms.  Those of you who know me well, know that I am a paranoid freak.

All these thoughts started running through my head.  We were in one of the first classrooms near the stairwell which means in a real emergency, a real active shooter, we would be the first to go.  Then I thought of all those babies, like OH MY GOD!

Since that day it’s just been running through my mind.  I’ve heard that the administration has been trying to get keys from central office since September.  The issue has not been resolved.

I don’t want to make it a race or socio-economic issue.  But I think of my grandson’s school (suburban district) and their security is on point.  There are two main doors to get through.  You are not allowed to come into building without an appointment.  If you’re dropping something off it gets placed in a drive-through window.

I am not saying nothing will happen there because we do know anything can happen anywhere; however it is evident the district has taken serious measures to keep children and staff safe.  Isn’t that what all school districts should be doing?  Especially in these times?

I’ve worked in urban and suburban districts and I’ve seen the disparity in school security.  And I am not saying that all the schools in suburban area are doing great with the security, nor that every school in urban area are doing horribly.  But we do see more schools doing horribly in urban areas than in suburban.

So here is my call to action to parents (mostly), but parents-to-be as well and community  members!

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Get involved.  Ask questions.  Visit your schools. Question your school’s security system.  Question what the role of security staff is.  We know that in some districts security guards are ill-trained and definitely not prepared to respond to this level of emergency.  Ask about all the different entry/exit points in your school and how they are monitored. Ask if all rooms can be locked and have keys, including the gym, cafeteria, art, technology- ANY single room in the building that children visit and could potentially be in during an emergency.  Ask to see their emergency drill procedures.

If you don’t like it, feel uneasy, or are not sure and have questions about the school security in your school, go to the board offices and/or the board of education meetings.  Make calls and send emails (even better as it creates a paper trail and documentation). Talk to other parents and get them involved.  Strength in numbers!!!

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Be an advocate for children and school safety!

Be an advocate for children and school safety, your own and others.

This shooting in Jersey City was within feet of a school.  Imagine if those shooters had tried to enter there?  I don’t know what their security system is like, but I imagine its a whole lot better than where I am on a day to day basis.  And if not, shame on them too.

Quite frankly, I want to go home at the end of the day and not be a victim of a shooting and/or intruder in what is supposed to be one of the safest places in our community.

Get vocal!  Get involved! Ask questions! Keep children safe!

This blog post is in honor of all the victims of the Dec. 10 shooting in Jersey City.

Thanks for swinging by and reading my blog post.  Remember to like, comment, follow and share!

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Be a hero!

LolaUncorked♥